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Drop Happens @loveshackldn 20.11.25
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Matua Sol
Nov 20, 20251 min read
Pendal’s 3D BDSM model: mapping kink across sensation, headspace, and aggression
John Pendal’s 3D model offers a clear way to talk about BDSM interests without collapsing everything into “top” and “bottom”. It maps...
Matua Sol
Aug 10, 20254 min read
Why Kink Isn’t a Red Flag (But Sometimes It’s a Distraction From One)
Interest in kink doesn’t excuse poor boundaries or harmful behaviour. When I was first exploring kink, I remember being absolutely...
Matua Sol
Apr 12, 20254 min read
Why I Still Do Pre-Scene Negotiation, Even With Long-Term Partners
Consent is an ongoing process, not a one-time agreement. I remember the first time someone I trusted deeply asked if we could “skip the...
Matua Sol
Apr 6, 20254 min read
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